Confidence
Hey y’all this is definitely something I’ve been wanting to write about for awhile. It’s February, and I thought to myself let’s talk confidence, self love, and body love! This is important for everyone but extremely important for fat people of color. Fat is not a bad word, but society has definitely turned it into one... I’m a fat black woman, and I’m proud of my body! I love my body!
I have always loved my body. When I was little I would always walk around my room naked and just look at myself in the mirror and my mom would constantly be like go put some clothes on walking around here like you’re the Queen of Sheba! I never knew what she meant, but I liked being called a Queen, and not much has changed!
I have friends that have told me their stories of growing up, and being fat shamed by family. Honestly it breaks my heart. I’ve listened to horror stories of their moms putting them on diets at like 8 years old. My parents never did those things. They always fought for me, and with me!
My family never shamed me, but children can be mean.....
I was aware of my own body, but also of the bodies around me, and I got teased at school for being fat, and having “thunder thighs”. I cried to my mom that I hated my body, and I didn’t understand why I looked like this.
My mom said Fallon, your body is amazing. Those people are teasing you because they are insecure because you’re different. My mom looked at me and said there is nothing wrong with being fat. There is nothing wrong with being different. My mom said you’re a Queen don’t let anyone tell you any different. I’m sure my parents didn’t even realize what they were doing, but they instilled so much confidence in me. I got lucky in the parent department.
I’m a confident woman, but I have days where I judge myself. Everyone has struggles. I think it’s important for us to talk about these things! We see people on social media and we judge our bodies based on their bodies. We even judge our lives, but remember if you don’t actually know these people in real life they are only showing you the good parts. Not the struggles it took for them to get there.
I’m here to tell you, all of you are perfect just the way you are! You guys are a gift! Please be kind to yourselves. I also can’t stress this enough, but body confidence goes for men as well. I realize the pressure y’all face, to be perfectly fit, and sculpted.
Here are some of my practices I do to worship and celebrate my body! I take ritual baths often, and have been doing this for as long as I can remember! Taking rose petals from my moms garden and putting them in my bath. Using essential oils and lighting candles. I do more now, but you work with the ingredients you have!
These little things help to soothe me, relax me, and just make me feel luxurious!
Things I say to myself or things I do daily:
•I am a Goddess
•Look at my naked body in the mirror and say thank you for this body you are beautiful and strong!
•I am Beautiful I am Enough
•Happiness isn’t size specific! Stop saying I’ll be happy when I’ve lost this or can fit that! Give yourself permission to just be Happy!
•If you choose to workout, do it because it makes you happy not because you hate it or because you hate your body, trust me when I say it’s a totally different experience.
I Love You Guys So Much! Cherish your bodies!
My family never shamed me, but children can be mean.....
I was aware of my own body, but also of the bodies around me, and I got teased at school for being fat, and having “thunder thighs”. I cried to my mom that I hated my body, and I didn’t understand why I looked like this.
My mom said Fallon, your body is amazing. Those people are teasing you because they are insecure because you’re different. My mom looked at me and said there is nothing wrong with being fat. There is nothing wrong with being different. My mom said you’re a Queen don’t let anyone tell you any different. I’m sure my parents didn’t even realize what they were doing, but they instilled so much confidence in me. I got lucky in the parent department.
I’m a confident woman, but I have days where I judge myself. Everyone has struggles. I think it’s important for us to talk about these things! We see people on social media and we judge our bodies based on their bodies. We even judge our lives, but remember if you don’t actually know these people in real life they are only showing you the good parts. Not the struggles it took for them to get there.
I’m here to tell you, all of you are perfect just the way you are! You guys are a gift! Please be kind to yourselves. I also can’t stress this enough, but body confidence goes for men as well. I realize the pressure y’all face, to be perfectly fit, and sculpted.
Here are some of my practices I do to worship and celebrate my body! I take ritual baths often, and have been doing this for as long as I can remember! Taking rose petals from my moms garden and putting them in my bath. Using essential oils and lighting candles. I do more now, but you work with the ingredients you have!
These little things help to soothe me, relax me, and just make me feel luxurious!
Things I say to myself or things I do daily:
•I am a Goddess
•Look at my naked body in the mirror and say thank you for this body you are beautiful and strong!
•I am Beautiful I am Enough
•Happiness isn’t size specific! Stop saying I’ll be happy when I’ve lost this or can fit that! Give yourself permission to just be Happy!
•If you choose to workout, do it because it makes you happy not because you hate it or because you hate your body, trust me when I say it’s a totally different experience.
I Love You Guys So Much! Cherish your bodies!
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